Why I dont dwell on what might have been

I used to regret a lot of things and spend a lot of time thinking about the things that might have been. Life is full of them and to dwell on them to a point where they control all you do in your life wears you down, more than the regret itself.

What do I regret in life?

• As a young child, stealing from my parents and other family members.
• Being snapped one to many times for little white lies.
• Not focusing enough as a missionary.
• Not learning the piano from my mother.
• Being a procrastinator.
• Eating too much too many times.
• Feeling the way I do at times about my home town.
• Not working hard enough when it matters, and sometimes, working too hard when it dosen't.
• Breaking the hearts of friends I once loved, even if I felt it was out of necessity.

I have regrets. I have things I would like to have done better, done differently as any other person has. But for the most part, I cannot do anything about most of them. Sure I can change attitudes, patterns, and the direction of my life, but things that involve other people who have passed on, I cannot change.

Take my mother for example, I cannot learn the piano from her. I can learn it for sure...but I cannot learn it as she played it...her styles, her methods, her unique ways...that went with her.

That is the way that it might have been. It is not the way it is. My life would be in a different place now if I only remembered things that might of been, instead of carrying on with life that is in front of me to be lived.

Do I regret that I'm in my early 30's, studying for my bachelors degree when I could have done it years ago? Yep...fact is, I'm doing it now and am looking forward to success. What I do not regret is having nearly 11 years of tertiary education experience as a teacher without one. It has made me a better person and now I am clear in what I want to do with my career.

There is no time in life for regrets. Life is difficult enough without having to spend hours and hours wondering about what might have been.

To use the phrase from Waynes World...LIVE IN THE NOW!!!